That was part of my problem. I went after the hot ones who had very strong personalities and liked to party. All the times that they got aggressive is when they were drunk. I found out over time that all 4 have done the same things in previous relationships. And they often found the stories funny, which is disturbing. I was always in the mindset to remove myself from the situation, let them calm down, and then let them know I wasn't going to put up with it. All you need on the other side is someone like tbad, who's waiting to show them the "fury", for really bad things to happen.
I look back and don't know why I was in those relationships as I've always been more attracted to the cute, sweet ones, over the hot ones with strong personalities.
All that said, and I know it's a generalization, but my experience is the crazier they are, the better the sex. It was quite the conundrum.