Yeah, it probably kinda sucks to be her, because our society makes it really hard for people whose gender identities don't conform to the norm. She is in no way a "degenerate" (I'd argue that YOU are, however), and in a proper society she would be accepted the same as someone who's gender related to her sex.
Nobody here is "TRYING" to be progressive, we're just not stuck in some sort of weird bible belt of ignorance where everything we don't personally agree with is wrong, nor are any of us repressing deep seeded sexual desires because we believe that our magical sky daddy would frown REALLY hard at us if we acted on our nature.
male/female is *NOT* a value system, BTW, that's just asinine.
"Men are starting to become less like men" is the dumbest thing you could possibly say. "Cars are starting to become less like cars" because they don't look like Model-Ts anymore? "Dogs are starting to become less like dogs" because they're no longer wild animals? The hallmark of society (and reality) is change, and if you refuse to accept that, you get left behind.