Discriminatory slur words are not created by the people who they are used against, but by the prejudicial thoughts and actions of others who hate them because of prejudice. After these words are created, however, the people who these words were used against forever own them. And the defendants in the case, or anyone not a part of the discriminated group, are never allowed to rewrite the words history to change it's meaning or minimize it's impact.
Note: these are not my words but I find them very well written